Hours of planning, countless DIY projects and thousands of dollars go into pulling off your dream wedding. The last few weeks are just flying by and after all of the waiting, the final countdown for your big day has finally arrived. So how do you make sure that it really is the day you’ve always imagined?

Well, if you asked my bridesmaids (the ladies who know me best), if they thought I would be calm and collected on my wedding day, not one of them would have said yes. Not only am I a perfectionist, I’m not always the best at handling stressful situations. It’s not easy to transform yourself from an obsessive party planner, fixating on every small detail, to a chill, keep-your-cool bride, but it’s definitely something that needs to be done.

Here are my five steps to help you relax and make the most of one of the biggest days of your life:


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If we’re being honest, most of us started to plan our wedding’s years before Mr. Right came along. Things like the time of year, or the venue – maybe even our wedding colours and flowers were picked out long before he got down on one knee.

This may seem a little eager to some, but really, it’s a step in the right direction. The more organized you are from the start, the easier it will be in the lead up to your big day. You don’t want to be running around in a craze the Friday before you tie the knot – nobody needs stress levels that high. Not to mention the need for a good long beauty rest the night before.

Things will always come up at the last minute, but be sure to try your best to have the details worked before timelines get too tight. Keep a binder with all of your contracts, receipts and any other notes and images together. Be sure to send all of your vendors instructions well in advance – let them know where they will need to be, what time you will need them to be there and any other special details you will want them to take care of. Follow up your initial call a few days before the wedding to be sure that everything is on track.

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Do yourself a favour – hire a professional to make sure that your day runs smoothly. As someone who loves weddings and works in the industry, I put a lot of thought and detail into our special day. Details are great, but they mean that there is also a LOT of work to do in order to pull everything off. Had we not hired a wedding planner to coordinate our day I would have been stressed from the get-go. Our flowers arrived hours behind schedule, our setup took almost twice as long as planned and our hair and makeup team had trouble finding the ceremony site, but I was calm as could be, knowing that she had my back.

Hiring a planner is like buying insurance for your wedding. They take all of the stress away from you and ensure that everything works out just the way you imagined, leaving you completely oblivious to any hiccups that happened along the way.


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Surround yourself with positive people. You don’t need to deal with your critical aunt making negative comments over your shoulder, or a miserable bridesmaid who can only think about herself. Separate yourself from people who have the ability to ruin your mood. Surround yourself with positive people and happy thoughts. This should be the happiest time of your life!


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In the past month you have scheduled, planned, cake-tasted, dress-fitted and crafted your way into a near coma. Being relaxed is key to looking and feeling your best. Go on a fun date with your husband-to-be or have a spa day (solo or with your bridesmaids) to unwind and relieve all the stresses of the past month. Put them behind you and don’t think about them again.


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No matter what you do the day is going to fly by. It’s so important to share a few private minutes with your new husband to take everything in. Sneak out of the reception with your photographer to grab some sunset shots, or just slip outside to have a little chat and share a kiss (or two). You won’t regret it!

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It is all about perspective. There may be a few small snags along the way, but don’t let it ruin your day. In the end it’s not about the details, it’s about marrying the man of your dreams, so that you can spend the rest of your lives together. If something goes wrong, chances are, no one will notice but you.